Our recommendations for couples’ toys

In the past, vibrators and dildos were either seen as something someone would use in secret or only for people whose sexual preferences were outside of so-called “normal”.  Fortunately, those preconceptions have changed and it’s now becoming far more common for sex toys to make a more regular appearance for couples.

If you’re new to this and don’t know where to start, these are our recommendations:

·       If you like a laugh when it comes to sex, try a remote-controlled toy.  The dynamic changes entirely once you hand the remote to one partner and they control the sensations!  We have customers who like to have a play with the remote-controlled Cistus while they are out and about.  Obviously choose your location wisely so that the faint buzzing noise doesn’t attract attention!  Used this way, the toy becomes part of a longer foreplay, ramping up sensations for her and increasing the anticipation for both parties for what might come later.  Some remote-controlled toys can also be used during penetrative hetero sex so that both parties can enjoy the buzz at the same time.

·       If you are a woman who struggles to orgasm during penetrative sex, try introducing a toy designed for clitoral stimulation.  This concept has been transformative for many women – by bringing in some action to the clitoris during sex, the likelihood of orgasm is much higher.  Using a wand vibrator like Cassia or Koi for wide-spread vibrations around the vulva or a more pinpoint, bullet style vibrator like Elemi or Meile can massively increase enjoyment for her.  These toys work well when used in both kneeling or side-lying with entry from behind positions.

·       If you’d like to play with control and dominance, try blindfolds and cuffs.  You may not consider yourselves “bondage” types at all but playing with power dynamics (in a safe way with someone you fully trust) can increase pleasure for both parties.  It might be that you run through a similar repertoire as usual, but this time one party is blindfolded so experiences sensations differently.  Or perhaps you combine some light bondage with a new toy to surprise and delight.

·       If you don’t like vibrations, try a glass or silicone dildo.  Some people don’t like the aural distraction of a vibrator or they struggle with vibrations pushing them into a state of oversensitivity…making orgasm even harder to achieve.  If you still want to enjoy the sensation of penetration with a toy, glass dildos can be heated or cooled to add a different element depending on season or preference.  Dildos can be used solely during foreplay to stimulate and excite or include them during penetration (vaginal or anal) to change the experience for both parties.