How to introduce toys to your partner!

This can be a valid concern for many partnered up people.  You're interested to bring a new dimension to your sex life but you don't want your partner to either feel threatened or to shut down.  Here are our top tips:

1) Choose a good time to raise the topic

This is unlikely to ever be right before sex!  Perhaps it would work during pre-sleep cuddles when the lights are off and you are in wind-down mode.  Or maybe during a car ride when you are sitting side by side if you feel like direct eye contact might be too much.  Others find the conversations flow better during a walk in nature.  Each couple is different so take a moment to think back to when you have had a successful result in the past when raising a delicate topic. 

2) Choose the right angle

No one is likely to respond well if they are told the sex they are offering is dull and boring.  We'd recommend an approach of "I was thinking maybe it could be fun if we spiced things up a bit."  The suggestion has to be about bringing back a spark or creating a chance for a deeper intimate connection with your partner.  In busy lives, often sex gets relegated to another chore on the list of things to do but once you introduce a toy, it becomes a session for play and discovery - highlight that aspect. 

3) Do your research beforehand

If you suspect your partner leans more on the conservative than the wild side, then have a look what is out there first so you don't inadvertently put them through a 'shock and awe' session while showing them potential toys to try! 

• In a hetero relationship, maybe you want to look at a His and Hers approach - find a toy which he might like (i.e. penis masturbator) plus one that would spin your wheels (i.e. clitoral suction).
• Or look to introduce a remote controlled vibrator or love egg for an interactive experience where one partner takes the driver's seat.  The partner wearing the vibrator doesn't have to lie passively either - perhaps she is using hands or mouth to stimulate the other partner at the same time. 
• Perhaps you aren't so much wanting a toy as some light bondage like cuffs and a blindfold.

4) Suggest shopping together 

If you get a positive response during your conversations on this topic, then why not suggest you both sit together one night to look through the toys available.  You might be surprised by what your partner finds interesting...and it could give you ideas for future surprise sexy birthday gifts!